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My “Political” Statement for 2020


It’s a year of change for many.

I for one am coming out of a year of anxiety and depression I don’t wish on anyone, but that’s a totally different post for another day. As I emerge from the darkness that was 2019 (the only way I can think to briefly describe that year), I realize I’m up against the possibility of another trying year as the country I love faces yet another election year.

As if the last few years weren’t divisive enough, we have the next few months to look forward to where people we love and respect tend to show sides we didn’t realize existed.

I try to stay as far away from politics as I can, personally. Yes I will vote in November, but who I chose to vote for is nobody’s business unless I choose to tell you myself.

What I absolutely will not do, however, is draw lines between myself and those who think or believe differently than I do. I believe that as long as your actions and beliefs are what you truly feel is right, your intentions are not to hurt anyone else, and your heart is in the right place, then who am I to say otherwise?

And that’s it. Period.

If I’ve chosen to include you in my life, it’s because I care about YOU. Not who you love. Not your political beliefs. Not the color of your skin or where you’re from. Not what you choose to do for a living. And especially not what you choose to do in your spare time.

You found someone you’ve fallen head over heels in love with and can’t imagine spending another moment of your life without them? Congratulations! I could not be happier for you. Oh, they happen to share the same gender as you? Ok, awesome! WHO you love is your business, your choice, and it’s no one else’s place to say if it’s right or wrong. You LOVE someone. The last time I checked, loving was a good thing, wasn’t it? Honestly, I’d be more concerned about the person who doesn’t have love in their heart for someone else- the type of love doesn’t matter. And if someone chooses to hate someone because they love another human being, that says more about the person with hate in their heart than it does the subject of their hatred.

So you and your family are from another country. Your skin is a different color than mine is. You know another language I don’t speak. But you wake up every day, just like I do, and live your life with the intention of bettering yourself and the lives of those around you. I have no idea why history or skin color should play any role in your pursuit for a great life. As long as you’re doing it the right way (yes, I do mean legally- I don’t advocate for breaking the law) and not trying to scam or hurt someone else along the way, keep reaching for the stars! And while you’re at it, I would love to learn what makes you and your culture unique. Teach me your language. Share your recipes with me (hello, I am a FOODIE). Show me photos and tell me stories about where you’re from! I’ll do the same for you when and if you’re ready. I’m proud of my Cajun culture and southern upbringing, just as you should be proud of yours!

What you do to provide for your family or in your spare time is the same thing! Do you like hunting? Awesome! I grew up in a home where eating the meat from my daddy’s hunting trips was a regular occurrence. And oh man, his deer meat chili was to die for!! I bet if you’re a hunter, you own certain tools you need to make it possible to provide that meat for your family the rest of the year. And I bet there’s a certain constitutional amendment that makes it legal for you to own those tools. You know what that amendment also provides? It provides the ability to protect ourselves from people who may not care as much about our country’s laws or those who don’t have the same hearts we have.

When you get home from work and are ready to wind down for the night, whether you reach for a cup of Sleepytime tea, a beer/cocktail/glass of wine, or whatever you choose, that should be your decision. Do I believe in allowing children to partake? Absolutely not. But as an adult, you do you boo!

You and I may not agree on everything… in fact I PROMISE you we won’t. But you will never find me advocating for any group to take any part of YOU away from YOU.

So as we forge through the next several months of even more separation and division, please remember that regardless of who you are, what you feel or believe, it’s possible to set those things aside and enjoy the company of those who may not be the same, act the same, or believe the same things as you do.

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My Whole-House Chore List

I KNOW I’m not the only mom who’s been in this position…

You’re getting ready for a party, family get-together, having some friends over for dinner, etc., and trying to get the house in tip-top shape. The kids (and husband LOL) are purposely trying to avoid you because they know you’ll ask for help.

OR on the very rare occasion that they ask what they can do to help, you respond with some version of the following:

“Clean your room!”

“You’re in charge of cleaning the bathroom.”

“It would be really helpful if you cleaned up the family room for me.”

And then they come to you saying they’re finished. You believe them! You make a mental note to double check that they did it right, but you’re thankful that they took that one task off your hands.

…or did they?

You finish what you were doing, forgetting to check behind them, and guests start to show up. You’re then hustling around, being the happy little hostess, when someone asks where the bathroom is.


You hold your breath, tell them where it is, and you may even throw in a bit of an, “Excuse the mess – I didn’t check the bathroom after my child cleaned it.” (Am I the only one who does this?) And you wait, cringing the entire time, for them to come back out.

To not make it entirely obvious, you give it a few minutes and go check the bathroom. There’s dirty clothes all over the floor, ripped up toilet paper that the dog got into, and blue liquid dripping from the side of the toilet.

You call your child into the bathroom and mutter through clenched teeth, “I thought I asked you to clean the bathroom for me!”

“Oh I did mommy! I used the little toilet scrubber like you do and I used toilet paper to wipe off the counter! Didn’t I do a good job?”

I don’t know how many times something like this has happened in my house, so like I said, I KNOW I can’t be the only one. At least I hope I’m not!

So one day I created this whole-house cleaning list. Do I still have to check behind them? Sure! I mean they’re still children so I don’t expect perfection, but the resulting image is so much less daunting than before. They know what they need to do, and they get it done.

Here is the list I use. You can download and edit my list to fit your needs as well!

What do you think? Would you add anything? Click the link below!


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My Child Didn’t Invite Yours to His Party… and I’m OK With It

When my sons were little, their birthday parties were insane. I mean, I was THE Pinterest-y birthday party mom! The theme was evident throughout every aspect of the party – the invitations, the decorations, the games, the food! They were nauseatingly adorable, every single one of them. I made up invitations for every kid in their classes, baseball teams, Scouts, plus all the family and friends who were always invited to everything. I would spend a ridiculous amount of time and money on them (most of them – when we could), and then when they were over I would collapse from pure and utter exhaustion!

The year my oldest turned 9 was the last year of this insanity. We did the whole shebang – invited everyone and their mama (literally), had an awesome theme, and everyone had a blast. Well, ALMOST everyone… until two of the kids at the party got into a fight. These two kids from different sides of my son’s life (one I found out later my son wished had not been invited) clashed – BIG TIME – and it showed its ugly face at his birthday party. Parents were called – they argued in my front room while I tried to keep everyone outside and keep the party going – it was no fun. Then they all went home. It was all over, I thought. We could go on and enjoy the rest of the party! Right? …wrong!

About an hour after everyone left, I’m playing a game with one of the kids on the side of the house when the father of one of the kids comes storming up, turning off the music, lining all the kids in the party up, and fussing at them all… at my house… shutting down my son’s birthday party!! My husband thankfully broke it up, pulled the dad aside and had a chat with him. They went home, and we were done with it.

And you know what else I was done with? BIRTHDAY PARTIES!!! The next year, we didn’t have a party for either of their birthdays – I just couldn’t bring myself to do it again. Then I realized, you know what? That’s not fair to my kids. They didn’t do anything wrong!

But how do I avoid the debacle from that crazy drama-filled party? I decided to limit the number of kids he was allowed to invite, and for the first time ever, I did not tell him he HAD to invite anyone. I made up a few invitations for him to take to school, and HE was 100% in charge of the guest list.

The party was wonderful! Everyone had fun, and my son is still smiling days after, thanking me for letting him have the party he wanted. Mom win! I did something right!!

Apparently, however, by limiting my son’s guest list, there were some that got left off the invite list. I know, I know, that NEVER happens, right?? Well, feelings were hurt. Tears were shed from what I’ve been told. And immediately I felt bad. Should I have made him invite his whole class and every member of every activity he’s in like we used to do? Should I have limited the guest list so soon?

I remember a few times in school watching the invites get handed out on the playground only to realize at the end of the stack that there wasn’t one for me. It hurt of course, especially because some of the girls I considered really good friends. But the party happened, I didn’t go, and I lived to tell you the tale today. I’m quite certain we’ve all gone through some sort of “why wasn’t I invited” type situation in our lives, haven’t we? Even as adults!

So as I think back on the whole situation, I have to remind myself that it’s ok that my son didn’t invite yours. He didn’t exclude him on purpose, and just because he didn’t change his mind when asked if your son could be invited, that doesn’t mean he has anything against your son or had any ill feelings toward him at all. It simply means that he’s growing up and deciding who he is and who he wants in his circle.

I couldn’t be prouder of the young man he is becoming. I WISH I had the sense when I was 11 years old to know who was worthy of my friendship and who wasn’t.

So with that, I say, “Sorry, not sorry!” My son has my full support in deciding who to invite to his parties or anything else in the future. It’s my job to raise him and teach him independence, and I’m not going to get anywhere by continuing to limit the decisions he’s able to make.

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Top 10 Things I Always Keep Packed

When you travel for work as much as I do, you tend to get into the habit of packing the same things over – and over – and over again! Honestly, I got tired of packing, unpacking, and repacking. After about 5 trips in only a couple of months, I started keeping my toiletry bag stocked and never need to repack the whole thing again. And man oh man, has that saved my life! I no longer need to block out time to pack. I can literally throw my bag together in about 10-15 minutes before my coworker shows up (we like to carpool together).

Here’s a list of some of my favorite things I like to keep packed and ready to go!

1 – Shampoo and Conditioner – I have to be very particular about my shampoo & conditioner that I use, so using the little freebies in the hotel room just aren’t an option for me. Thankfully, Paul Mitchell’s Tea Tree line (my FAVE) has tiny little travel size bottles that fit PERFECTLY in my toiletry bag, AND they’re only 2.5oz so they will make it through airport security with no problems!

2 – Dry Shampoo – Sometimes it just isn’t convenient to have to wash my hair while I’m on a work trip. And sometimes, well, it just isn’t in my hair washing schedule (I probably only wash my hair twice a week)! I have quite a few favorites, but for traveling I like Not Your Mother’s Clean Freak Dry Shampoo. Again – can’t beat the travel size!

3 – Razor & Shave Gel – Because when you need it, you need it! Not much is worse than getting dressed in the hotel, accidentally tearing a hole in your only pair of tights you packed, and having less than smooth gams, my friends (trust me on that one)! The walk of shame down to the little shop by the front desk can be pretty crucial too. What if you run into one of your coworkers?! My favorites? I’m a simple girl, so the travel size Skintimate is perfect for me!

4 – Epsom Salts or Bath Bombs – I don’t know about you ladies, but when I have an entire hotel room to myself for the night, I take advantage of the opportunity to soak in a nice hot tub with my favorite smelling epsom salts or a bath bomb! Dr. Teal’s is just what this mama needs! They have so many delicious scents, too (I’m rather partial to lavender – ahhhh)!

5 – Mani/Pedi Tools – Just the basics – clippers, file, some polish. When I have an actual chance to sit down and paint my nails or toes, it’s usually on these trips! I like to use the OPI brand polishes because they last so much longer than others I’ve tried.

6 – Toothbrush & Toothpaste – How many times have you gone on a trip and forget to pack your toothbrush? This was probably the final trigger for me before I started just keeping my bag packed. I like to keep a full sized toothbrush in a travel case in my bag. It just seems to get the job done faster and more thoroughly than those tiny little travel ones. Toothpaste of course is travel size – no need for a giant tube of toothpaste taking up more room than necessary!

7 – Travel Straightener/Blow Dryer/Brush – Isn’t this BaBylissPRO set the CUTEST?! The straightener is perfect for those quick work trips to touch up any creases in your hair from your soak the night before. Also, you never have to worry about the hotel blow dryer not working when you have your own – without sacrificing half your suitcase in order for it to fit! And then they wrap them all up in this ADORABLE quilted rose gold bag? Y’all, I can’t even… Now the brush is one of those things in my bag I would prefer not use (I’ve got a LOT of hair, so a full size is better), but it’s come in handy so many times when I forget to pack my real brush.

8 – Magic Makeup Remover Towel – Y’all, these things really are magic! Just wet them with warm water, and wipe away all the makeup, dirt, and travel grime from your face. The coolest part? The makeup doesn’t transfer or leave the towel until you add soap to it! So if you really layer on the eye makeup like I do, you. will. LOVE. this!!!

9 – My Favorite Skincare – Yep, I keep a spare set of my favorite skincare items in my bag so I don’t forget it. Because who wants to “make do” with the little makeup remover wipes and bar “facial” soap in the hotel room? NOT THIS GIRL! My skincare regimen is quite simple, and I absolutely love that I can support my favorite Boss Babes in their businesses by purchasing their stuff! I love Mary Kay’s Timewise 3-in-1 Cleanser (I know, it’s been discontinued… I’m not rushing out to buy the new one yet because I stocked up before my 3-in-1 was gone forever. I’ve heard good things about the 4-in-1 though). I just recently started using Arbonne’s Moisturizer, and I love how light and clean it makes my skin feel. And my absolute favorite part – my Joyome serums from Plexus! OMG my skin has never felt so smooth and bright, and the few little annoying wrinkles I did have are gone – bye bye!

10 – Body Spray – Last but certainly not least, I like to pack a bottle of the body spray for whatever perfume I’ve been wearing. I still get the ability to smell sweet and yummy while not being afraid that my expensive bottle of perfume might break or leak inside my bag. My go-to scent right now is Ralph Lauren Romance. I just love the soft floral scent. I don’t know if I’ll ever get tired of it!

11 – The Perfect Bag – I know I said 10, but what good would it do you if you didn’t have the perfect bag to hold it all? Vera Bradley makes my favorite – the Iconic Hanging Travel Organizer. It has all the pockets I need, it hangs on the back of the door or on the towel rack close to the shower, and it ties instead of zips! That way I can put whatever I want in there and I know it’ll all fit… hehehe!

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